We could all learn so much from the Martial Arts community! One of my favorite things to hear yelled out at their studios as they say their creed is PERSEVERANCE SIR! It’s the same for dating. So many singles think it is really hard to find their match. It isn’t. It just takes the grace of perseverance and you will get to your goal.
What does this mean to you? It means a little something different for everyone’s hunt for love, but it mostly means….. do not give up AND try all possible avenues everyday. Don’t let someone else take the eligible prospects that could be yours. Get online and date, get to a FastDater.com event and meet dozens of singles in less than 2 hours, keep your eyes open at Starbucks next time you are in line instead of texting your friends etc etc.
The holidays sometimes derail us. Now that we have all consumed enough Cadbury Creme Eggs and sorted through our favorite colors of Jelly Beans, let’s all get back to the business of dating! There ARE great singles out there. Check them out at our events. There is even one next week! YES, one fragile 3 minute date CAN turn into a whole new life for you. You CAN have fun dating!
Lisa Lombardi –lisa@fastdater.com
Founder/Dating Coach-FastDater Inc.
Spring at FastDater means a fresh blooming start to your dating game. Erase the mistakes you made over the winter and roll in the new prospects and lots of them. You are done saying you can’t find a date, if you are alone it is only because you haven’t marketed yourself in all the ways possible or you are repeating basic mistakes. The metrics on filling your funnel with enough dates will almost always land you that one special someone!
Join a spring FastDater.com event or schedule a phone chat with the Dating Coach to find out how to score your ideal match sooner than later! Go to www.fastdater.com now or drop a line to the Dating Coach lisa@fastdater.com.
Happy First Day of Spring!!
You may ask anything you truly want to know about a person that may or may not fit your criteria. Here are some of the most common questions asked on a fragile 3 minute date, but feel free to put your personality into being a FastDater too!
Have you done this before? Do you live around here? What do you do for a living? What’s your favorite type of food? Have you been married before? Where did you grow up? Do you travel a lot? What kind of music do you listen to? Are you a night owl or morning person? What is a dealbreaker for you? Do you smoke? Do you have pets? What is a typical Friday night for you?
So fun! Try it out at the next FastDater.com party.
Is online dating better or speed dating (FastDater) for finding dates? BOTH is the answer. So often customers shy away from telling us (FastDater staffers) they are online dating. We think singles trying to fill up their prospect funnel should be doing both online and speed dating AND more.
Online dating offers the advantage of reading somebody’s profile in the convenience of your own home. You can also peek at their photo. While FastDater is bombardment of loads of singles at once at a venue and you receive instant in person verification on whatever you want to know (image, chemistry, and anything you ask them).
Try both and see which works for you! Just do something.
If you have a question about an event, just email info@fastdater.com. Hope to meet you soon! You will love all the singles that just joined our database this past fall and winter.
If you are online dating, consider having our Dating Coach and Founder of FastDater Inc. review and edit your online profile/photo. Our clients that have used this service say their hits increased almost immediately and they started attracting more desired prospects.
Happy Dating,
www.fastdater.com
If you have ever had trouble keeping the conversation going on first dates, this is the best time of the year to try it out. With so much going on around the holidays, the topics will just flow! Ask your date who is your favorite character in the movie The Christmas Story? Will it be Ralphie? The Dad? The bully? Give your date a new idea for a Christmas cocktail for their next holiday bash (hmmm, maybe Smash-tini’s or just a simple Spiked Holiday Nog). Have you finished your Christmas shopping yet? What was the best gift you bought so far?
See how easy and fun this is! Now, get on those dates and fire up the conversation AND love. Need some advice on exactly how to do this? Give us a holler at info@fastdater.com and put DATING COACH in the Subject Header.
Just announced……….If you are Anti-Valentine’s Day, FastDater’s January 13th Eve of V-Eve Bash is perfect for you. You can completely avoid the craziness and pressure of Valentines, but still be in the mix of other singles like you that want to peruse prospects just in case they want to celebrate Cupid’s special day on the 14th. We will be chock full of prospects for you to cherry pick in the good ole fashioned discreet FastDater way. Oh and did I mention 694 Wine Bars fabulous Champagne cocktails for just $5 and complimentary exotic cheeses and the most decadent complimentary chocolates you have ever laid your eyes on? At our last Valentine’s Eve party, we caught people shoving them in their pockets for the cab ride home with their new love interest. Go to www.fastdater.com (chicago as your location) and read all the gooey details.
Lisa
Sometimes it’s just much easier to turn to a friend when you are seeking clarity and advice about dating. Something has confused the heck out of you and a friend is fast and free advice. However, it is often the blind leading the blind! This is not to say that some friends can’t kick out a zinger once in a while that is right on the money, but your friend most likely has the goal to make you feel better and so it is probably not the most accurate and seasoned advice. They are not coming from a standpoint of analysis on human behavior and what motivates change. And the reality is they don’t know (just like you don’t know), why your prospect didn’t call back! We always think our friends know these things. Try the professionals to demystify the dating scene and provide you with real answers, they are trained in this and do it everyday…unless you are just looking for that friend to friend ego boost connection, seek out our Dating Coach at info@fastdater.com. Put DATING COACH in the subject line for inquiries.
Nobody thinks they are boring, but your dates can sniff it out from your energy and the way you describe your day to day life. During this time while you are single, be sure you are having fun in all parts of your life. Are you dressing fun? How about the restaurants/bars you go to? Are they fun and varied? Are you spending the weekends with your married friends? How does your online profile portray you? Is it well written? Do you reek of fun? You need to! Do a reality check because if you don’t exude fun and a free spirited nature when you are dating, your dates might not think you would be fun as a spouse! People live too long to end up with someone boring. Happy prospecting this week!
Hope your Turkey Day was yummy. Now back to looking for love, here’s my take on this time of year and dating. So often around the holidays I hear singles say, I didn’t find someone by the holiday, so I will just start looking again in the new year. This is such a mistake! There are singles out everywhere at this time of year. It’s like they literally come out of hibernation. Guys that never shop, who are now holiday shopping. Women who never go to the suburbs, but now are in the suburbs for that special holiday event, non for profit gatherings, grabbing that cup of cheer after the office etc etc. Keep trying because this is an ideal time for catching other singles in the stream of their lifestyle in an organic way. If you are feeling like you are out of steam, keep a stiff upper lip and try, try again. There are too many good catches to quit. It only takes one!!
Remember, prospecting your future Mrs. or Mr. Right is not always under structure at a FastDater event or while searching online! There are opportunities in your life everyday that most singles are missing! Integrate prospecting into the stream of your day to day lifestyle.
So, take a different path home from work today. Try looking up and making eye contact when walking down Michigan Avenue to your next meeting. Don’t be in a rush when you are grabbing lunch, leave a few minutes to eye the crowd and then try to find a reason to meet the person who catches your eye. I don’t know every little opportunity you have everyday in your lifestyle, but I will tell you that the average person has at least 50 a day! That could turn into a lot of dates if you are focused.
The holiday season creates joy in the air, so be aware of easy and free opportunities to meet your match. If you are stuck on exactly what to do, book a dating coach session with me, the Founder of FastDater…… E-mail lisa@fastdater.com to start turning around your dating game!
